Be Present

It is in the present moment, that we are truly alive! When we awaken to the silence of our minds, we are able to hear the wisdom of our souls. Our presence allows us to fully participate in our lives and enjoy all the peace, joy and wonderment that life has to offer.

"If you have one eye on yesterday, and one eye on tomorrow, you're going to be cockeyed today." -  Anonymous

"We are always getting ready to live but never living." -  Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Today is the first day of the rest of your life.' - Charles Dederich

What do you want to do with your life?

I was asked a very puzzling question. It was not a question I had not heard before or a question I had not answered. I truly think the question had an  impact on me because I was  sleeping and the question was been asked.  So my brain did not have the time to be on a ego trip and say what it thought would be appropriate or what I thought I wanted. It was my inner conscious listening. Raw, bare and open. "What do want to do with your life?" 


Wow, what a shocker. Who asks questions like that when you are semi- conscious? Well my dear love did. It left my brain frazzled and confuses. I had a hundred thoughts go through my head and I was not even sure which was what. There are lots of things I "want" to do in my life. But that was not the answer to the question. So I turned the question back to him. 


"What do you want to do with your life?" I have three things he said. 
Three things! is this man for real. How could I ever possibly come up with just three things. So I croaked back to him in my sleepy voice, "Well babe, that is very mature of you to only have three things you want to with your life. So what are they?
"Well first..." he said." I would like to spend the rest of my life with you. To be a successful architect and continue to do photography."
My man has his life to a simple 3 answer step. No confusion, no dilution, no side step motto. I found him to be wise and untarnished by this over superficial life, 2.0 generation. He lives to his own standards of life and he definitely had his own perspective about wants and needs.
I signed desperately. 


"I admire that. I am a restless soul. I want many things. I will need time to think on that answer."
I am finding it difficult to separate the want and the true need. I have a list but not even sure if the list is for me. I want everything to feel accomplished in this life time. Now, I am wondering - IS IT WORTH IT?


So for today, my question is What do you want to do with your life?


- Mabe its not even the question we should be asking...

Conquer yourself

Don't leave things to chance or dreams for a better tomorrow. You have right now, this moment to choose to live the life you ever wanted. Don't give me stories or excuses. I am not your mother or your father. You don't own me anything. Get up, stand up straight and say your name with pride. Look yourself in the mirror. Are you proud? Are you bold? Are you fearless? Welcome to your life. It has already begun... and you are running behind. 

- Girlondayloose

This blogsite was created to awaken your true potential and live your greatest dreams. I gave myself permission to live my own life. I hope I inspire you to do the same and live your life abundantly. 
"Woman thou art loosed" Luke 13:12

In this life

Be kinder than necessary,
for everyone you meet is 

fighting some kind of battle.

Live simply, 

Love generously, 

Care deeply,

Speak kindly.......

Leave the rest to God.  Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass. 

It's about learning to dance in the rain.   

Choose this day to not simply be alive but to LIVE."

Be the light in someone's darkness.

Inner Peace

Stress, hate, love, no love, want love, want money, want more. It never ends. The constant questioning and the constant searching for that "something" inside of us has heavily being sitting in our hearts since we where children. It is like the missing pieces of a jigsaw puzzle that we are forever searching, ever wondering where and what it could be. Questions...but never any immediate answers. Sometimes we have to switch off the voices in our heads that doubt, that hate, that fear, that question all things and fights all possibilities for change. If you life is full of stress, problems, and pain, your mind has been running the show for far too long.
By stopping the mind, you master it and essentially master your life! Even when the mind is 50% mastered, you'll see you have more clarity, freedom and inner peace in your life. You'll discover that every experience is trying to teach you something. That the ultimate lesson is how to be supremely happy, joyful, loving and free!  

Often the lesson that we first need to learn, is to find inner peace. How to stay calm and clear and be present with "right now". Where we stop fighting life and start learning our lessons! The greatest lesson that we are INCREDIBLE  human beings that contain the greatest source of love, joy, and peace.

I am no master of meditation but I find it necessary to take the time to reflect on me. To be quiet inside myself so that I can have the patience and time to listen to my inner self. The part of me that knows better. It know that all my questions are not important and what is important is stop the battle of who I want to be and who I really am. That is my true ultimate quest and it seems to continue to reflect itself back at me; Girlondaloose, moving countries, making movies, questions-answers ect ect. You may be on a differnent journey of your own. Learning and developing something new inside yourself but what I am certain of is that; we all looking for Love, Peace and Happiness.  

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Dalai Lama: Inner Peace

SEVEN SIMPLE STEPS TO INNER PEACE

1. Be still
Take the opportunity to be still or at least do something positive. The problem is the mind feels insecure unless it has something to occupy it. However, when we really can attain a clear mind we discover it creates a genuine sense of happiness and inner peace.


2. Control your thoughts
It is our thoughts that determine our state of mind. If we constantly cherish negative and destructive thoughts, inner peace will always remain a far cry. At all costs, we need to avoid pursuing trains of negative thoughts. This requires practise. – We cannot attain mastery of our thoughts over night. But, at the same time we always have to remember that we are able to decide which thoughts to follow and which to reject. Never feel you are a helpless victim to your thoughts.

“If you have inner peace,nobody can force you to be a slave to the outer reality.”- Sri Chinmoy

3. Simplify your life 
Modern life, places great demands on our time. We can feel that we never have enough time to fulfill all our tasks. However, we should seek to minimise these outer demands. Take time to simplify your life; there are many things that we can do without, quite often we add unnecessary responsibilities to our schedule. Do the most significant tasks, one at a time, and enjoy doing them. To experience inner peace, it is essential to avoid cluttering our life with unnecessary activities and worries.

4. Spend time to cultivate inner peace Every day we spend more than 8 hours a day to earn money, can we not find time to spend 15 minutes to cultivate inner peace? No matter how much money we earn, it cannot bring us inner peace, but, if we spend 15 minutes on meditation and relaxation techniques inner peace can become a possibility. Meditation does not just mean sitting still for 30 minutes; in meditation we seek to experience a state of consciousness which is flooded with inner peace. To experience this inner peace we cannot allow any thought to enter into our mind. True inner peace occurs when we can transcend the world of thoughts.

“You cannot buy peace; you must know how to manufacture it within, in the stillness of your daily practises in meditation.”- Paramahansa Yogananda

5. Be immune to Flattery and CriticismIf we depend on the opinions and praise of other people, we can never have inner peace. Criticism and flattery are two sides of the same coin. They are both the judgements of others. However, we should not allow ourselves to be affected by either. When we do, we feed the ego. We should learn to have confidence in ourselves. This does not mean we will love ourselves in an egotistical way, it means we value our real self and have belief in the good qualities that are part of everyone.

6. Be Active selflessly
Inner peace does not mean that we have to live a life of a hermit. Inner peace, can be felt amidst dynamic activity. But, this action should be done with selfless motives. When we serve others we forget our sense of self, and it is when we forget our limited self that we can have inner peace.

7. Avoid Criticising Others
If we want inner peace, we should feel that our inner peace depends on the well being of others. If we are indifferent to the feelings of others, then it is impossible to have inner peace for ourselves. What we give out comes back. If you offer a peaceful attitude to others this is what we will see return.

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Life Mantra

Read it, love it, print it, frame it, laminate it, paste it, file it, memorize it, know it, show it, share it, sing it, hum it, dance on it, pray for it, steal from it, practice it, want it, need it, hold it, cherish it, burn it, wash it, live it, be it what ever you do learn from it.

Learn how to let go

We’ve all been hurt by another person at some time or another — we were treated badly, trust was broken, hearts were hurt. And while this pain is normal, sometimes that pain lingers for too long. We relive the pain over and over, and have a hard time letting go. Letting go is the process of accepting what’s happened or happening and move on. It is never easy cause we spend our time convincing ourselves that everything is alright when we know in our loneliness what our soul whispers to our heart. We get trapped in a cycle of anger and hurt, and miss out on the beauty of life as it happens.We need to learn to let go. We need to be able to forgive, so we can move on and be happy.

“Change is never easy, you fight to hold on, and you fight to let go.” – The Wonder Years

Some areas are easy to let go of. In some other areas it is difficult but possible with the right effort. In others, it is not possible the way we are right now, but we can prepare for it. Even when it is very challenging to let go, we can prepare by letting go around the edges, not attacking the craving directly at first. Sometimes by chipping away at the outside, we can work our way to the middle, eg, paying attention to the fear of the fear, as opposed to going directly into the fear. We need to understand, study, how to let go, and also for the heart to appreciate letting go. Forgiveness can change your life. Forgiveness does not mean you erase the past, or forget what has happened. It doesn’t even mean the other person will change his/her behavior — you cannot control that. All it means is that you are letting go of the anger and pain, and moving on to a better place.

It’s not easy. But you can learn to do it. It is important to understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy ways of letting go.

The 4 unhealthy ways of letting go:

1. Unnecessarily letting go of all of all your money, or sexuality making yourself suffer unnecessarily when it is the clinging of the object which is the problem, not the object.
2. Letting go out of duty, obligation, or excessive politeness.
3. Self sabotage  "I don't count", self-diminishing, self-effacing way of letting go, eg, I do not really deserve that chocolate.
4. Letting go out of hate, or fear, eg, letting go of desires.


The 4 healthy ways of letting go:

1.  Letting go of something, eg, conceit, identity, fear, clinging to chocolate . . . 
2. Letting something be, ie, letting go of movement of not letting things be, of our taking agency; letting to be yourself; finding a place of stillness within our awareness;
3. Letting something in, ie, to trust, to not resist, to let in what we are holding off at bay, eg, sorrow, suffering, love; letting go of resistance
4. Letting go into something, eg diving into a pool; calm and peace

“One problem with gazing too frequently into the past is that we may turn around to find the future has run out on us.” – Michael Cibenko

And always remember what ever may happen in your life you have a choice to change your situation. You always have the choice.

Millionaire attitude: Think Rich

Everybody wants to be rich. We think about, we imagine ourselves being rich, we sing about in our showers winning Oscars and Grammy's on top of it. They say rich is the company you keep.

Model the Millionaire Mindset

When the rich spend time with other rich and successful people they are also influenced, but in a positive way. They feed off each other and model each other to become even more wealthy and successful. They can exchange positive ideas and opportunities rather than moaning and complaining. People with a millionaire mindset do not associate with people that are negative and pessimistic. They try to surround themselves with others that have a mindset of success.

Millionaire Mindset Attitude

“If they can do it, I can do it”. The millionaire mind is an inspiration to others that are working on developing their millionaire mindset.The quickest way to a millionaire mindset is to spend time with positive and successful people. Model them and pay attention to their thoughts habits and qualities. You can learn much from others with a millionaire mind. The more time you spend modeling the rich, reading about the rich and associating with the rich the much better the chances of you becoming rich and successful. They have done what you want to do, so learn from them anyway that you can.

The secret to getting rich is that there IS no secret. There is, however, a commonality that rich people have which can give us a clue to how they did it.

It's called WORK.
Sure, there is the occasional overnight success. It's true in the entertainment industry and in business. And there are also those who are rich due to inheritance. Unless you've got a rich Uncle Vinny set to leave you ten million dollars I think it's safe to move past that option.

The truth is that most wealthy people got there because they had a dream, believed in that dream, equipped themselves to carry out their vision and ACTED on their dream without ceasing.

You could go down the list of financially successful people and you'll find that many of them have had tremendous failures. But they got back up again and kept pursuing their dream.

It's work.

It's Work.

It's WORK!

And it's usually very HARD work.


People usually start any inspiration on high spirit and good will but it quickly dies down because we don't get instant success. I call this the doom of the MTV NOW NOW generation. Patience is our lost virtue, something I suffer from.

In the free world, it is your right to do whatever you want with your aspirations (within the law). And if you want to squander your time and let your dreams die on the vine, that's your choice.But it doesn't have to be that way.And I don't believe we were designed to live that kind of life.

Are there any guarantees that your hard work will turn to riches?

Nope. And anyone who tells you otherwise is trying to sell you something.

But, I can guarantee this...

If you dare to dream, choose to believe in your dreams, prepare yourself to do what is needed to make them a reality and take steady, repeated, unrelenting action to reach your dreams, you will grow in ways you cannot imagine.

Ideally, your bank account will grow.But even if it doesn't, you will grow as a person. Some of the biggest lessons I have learned in life have not come from the happy endings, but through adversity.

It's not a secret, my friends.

It's not magic.

We want to believe their is a pill we can take to shower financial success down on us, but the truth is as plain on the nose on your face.

If you've got your big dream, it's time to pursue it.

If you don't have a big dream, or are unsure that it is the way you should go, I recommend reading The Dream Giver by Bruce Wilkinson. It will inspire you and bring clarity to your dream.

Believe in your dream with everything you've got. Surround yourself with others who believe in you. Don't let the naysayers make you stray from your course.

Learn all you can about the task before you, but don't worry about knowing it all. Some of the best learning experiences happen along the way.

And then, take action.

Then take more action.

And keep taking action until you reach your goal.

It's simple, but not easy.

But you CAN do it.

What are you waiting for?

Leave your comments below I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
The shared thoughts of Joel Comm

Je parle Francais.

First thing you do when you get to a foreign country that speaks a foreign language, is learn the foreign language before you get here. I had had French lessons before but it did not prepare me for ordering at a restaurant that was serving Belgian delicacies. I was being adventurous. There is nothing worse than starving to death and looking at the menu and having no idea what it means. I have killer instincts when I'm hungry. I say killer instincts because I mean I will kill- to- eat- anything- right- now mood swings. I turn into those scary Gremlins if I don't eat. Short people need to eat. We're feisty. Yes, great something I understand L'americain prépare. Food prepared in an American way. Fantastic, I have travelled mile across countries and sea to Europe, Brussels to have food prepared in a Belgian American way. That's not what it really means its just called L'americain prépare. 


The raw fresh beef minced to an oblivion, seasoned with salt and pepper fresh herbs, worcester sauce and onions, top off with a raw egg you mix yourself and gherkins to garnish served with those great Belgian potatoe chips (we will get to that)... Delicious.

Eat Pray Love

Eat Pray Love. I read it a year ago recommend to me by a good friend. Now it sleeps on my bedside table again to remind me, to teach me that my journey has just begun. Don't give up on yourself. That is why Girl on the loose exists. I am on my own journey finding the fullness of me.

Thailand: My future retreat

We like to call ourselves free human beings with rights and purpose but there is something in us that still needs to ask for permission to be excellent. To be great. To need. To want. It was the guilt of wanting to have something on my own with out my love, that petrified me. I was thinking about all the responsibilities of a woman, for herself and the ones she loved and how I had to abide by them. It did not feel right because I am me and living up to everybody else's expectations would get me nowhere. In this day of age we all need some reassurance, some king of reward or permission to allow to be ourselves. Don't ask me why cause I'm working on it.

So being a true blood human bundled with nerves and days of heavy pondering. I collected the courage to ask the love of my life if, let's say hypothetically if I could go to Thailand for a month just by myself, for the pleasure of it. If it would be ok, with him. ( why I asked him, because we are one. He is my partner in crime. Every decision we make affects the other. If we both agree to the terms and conditions applied. We are ready and armed to support each other, beside I would go crazy if he wanted to go somewhere for a month with out me) He knows me very well and knows that there was nothing ever hypothetical about any of my questions. I could see the worry in his eyes. He quickly questions himself whether I am unhappy or am I planning to leave him or something twisted. In his curious smile he jokes why am I planning a trip without him. And at this moment I can not bullshit myself anymore. I say, 'Its for me. Just to see a part of the world and learn something just for me by myself'. I moved to Brussels because I wanted too, now I'm not working so, I'm restless. I need to do something in my life. I don't want to wake up and be thirty one day and say oops I missed the train cause I can hear it right now blowing the whistle. Are you in or out? Being the wise and overprotective man that he is. He takes a pause ask what I will do there. Learn Thai massage. Why? Because. He jokes "Will you be coming back?" I smile. He looks at me with a serious face and says, "If that makes you happy." I grab him in my arms and hold him so tightly and say, " That you for being you."

The Beginning

Hello,
It is always polite to say hello and mean it with a smile. There is nothing more important to me than respect for another person. So hello and I surely pray that you are ok.  Cause if you are good. Everybody is good and then there is no need to fight or fuss about anything. I like it like that. 


So here I am I have once again joined the millions in blogging hoping I can share something with masses and maybe help me learn about my new adventures that will unfold.


I have left South African to come to Brussels in search the more-ness of me. I am a film, commercial, television and broadcast director and producer. Currently unemployed in a foreign country with all the love I need. I made the choice to be here. I made the choice to be me. I am here to learn and teach with all the women and men in world to be loosened; To let go of the fears and expectations and just be yourself.  Especially dedicated to women to join me on this journey.


As the great Luke 13:12 writes, "Women thou art loosed" I hope through my own demonstrations, trials, success and failure. May I open the opportunity for you to free yourself. To allow yourself to be the fullness of you.