Tuesday, October 26, 2010

How to Get Over a Break up

Falling in love with someone is the most wonderful feeling in the world. You feel as though you are floating on a bubble of love ecstasy and the world is truly a beautiful place in live in. Shot gun. Right to the heart. Crumbling to total dismay is how you feel when the love is over, when go through a break up or a one-sided love. No tears in the world can fill that heartache, no loving hug can cure the pain. 
Sometimes, the pain of lost love is so intense that it can shake our beliefs about romance and relationships. When these emotional bruises are not understood and have not healed properly, they become invisible baggage that drag with us into the next relationship.

STOP: Time to Ask for Help

"When it comes to love,
you need not fall but rather surrender,
surrender to the idea that you must love yourself
before you can love another.
You must absolutely trust yourself
before you can absolutely trust another
and most importantly you must accept your flaws
before you can accept the flaws of another.”
~ Philosophy: Falling in Love

1. Let it Go
 Learn to Let Go  If you were on the receiving end of a breakup, do not dwell on whether the person will come back or not, if they broke up with you at one point, chances are, something is wrong with the fit of your partnership, and you’ll be better appreciated elsewhere, with someone else. Even if you and the ex get back together, it is unlikely to last. Trust that everything in the Universe happens for a reason, and it benefits everyone involved in the long run, even if the benefits are not yet clear. Trust that this is the best possible thing to happen to you right now, and the reasons will become clear in the future.

2. Deal with the Hate
We all have the need to be understood and heard. Whether we’re on the receiving end or the initiating end of a breakup, we often carry with us the tension and any unexpressed emotions. We can release this extra energy by:

  • Talking about it with a friend.
  • Voicing our opinions honestly and openly with our ex-partner, which have been bottled up in the past.
  • Punching a pillow and crying freely for 10 minutes
  • Screaming out aloud and imagining unwanted energy being released with your voice
  • Writing in a journal
  • Exercise and body movement.
  • Meditating.
3.  Love Yourself and Forgive
Inner Peace You need to understand that you are still present in this life time and that time does not stand still. Keep an open mind and know that you are worth all the beautiful things in the world and this situations does not mean you will never love again. Forgive yourself for being so hard on yourself. Love yourself and know that you are capable of living a life of love and joy with out this other person. Don't look for blame or faults. It is not. So it is not meant to be. Open yourself to allow new wonderful people to get the opportunity to love you. Its important. And to do that forgive you ex-partner for the pain and loss. Remember you were happy once before and finding love and joy with someone is something to be grateful for.  Thank you - I forgive - I love myself. Is a mantra you will have to practice.

4. Give it Time
There is a time for everything in this life time. Even time to love and break-up to love again. Surround yourself with love and inspirational quotes and readings to keep you going because this too shall pass. 

“Every relationship will end someday, whether by break-up or by the death of one partner. Relationships have cycles. They are born, they live, and they die. Just like every part of life. It is merely a part of life.”
-Tom Stine

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  1. that was brilliant. I needed that! I was going beserk trying to find this advice on the net day before yesterday!


    Looking forward to more stuff!

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