Wednesday, October 27, 2010

3 Ways to Change Your Life

Everybody has problems in their life and at some point you may feel miserable and unhappy. It is this moment in your life where your self esteem and confidence are in the pits. This could be cause by many factors and it so difficult to get out the viscous circle. There are 3 things you can do that can change your life instantly. It is a matter of changing your perspective. 

1. Find the lost energy in your life
One of the reasons that people become unhappy is because they do not have the energy required to do things and live an active life. Instead they are overdrawn by tiredness and the stress of daily life and become passive and inactive. They watch life passing in front of them without taking the advantages life has to offer. If you feel that you are in this phase then you need to take actions. You can start by changing your diet. What we eat and drink during the day plays an important role in the levels of energy we have to do things. This is something that many times is not taken into account by many people but a healthy diet. Try a week of junk- food free detox and eat as little meat as possible. It will make it easier for your body to heal its self from bad toxins, stress and energy.

2. Improve your self esteem
Low self-esteem can destroy everything beautiful about yourself. Its difficult to have a positive thought when you think you don't deserve one. Enough of the wall of woe. Being a pessimist is no way to live a life of abundance and joy. Change your perspective. People with high self esteem approach life from a different angle and they are optimistic about the future. Learn to appreciate the small things in life, learn to respect your self, your beliefs and abilities and I constantly say- Be Thankful, be thankful for every little you have and every little thing that makes who you are. 

3. Find happiness in your life
Happiness is what makes your life enjoyable and what can give you strength and courage to over stand life difficulties and obstacles. People who are happy have learned one thing. They have learned how to enjoy life and appreciate the little things that give you a lot of happiness. Happiness is on those small things and not on the big things as many people believe. Happiness is not in money, big houses or luxury cars but is on the love of your friends and family and on those everyday things that happen in life. Happiness is when you enjoy a nice meal with your friends and when you watch a good movie with your family. Happiness is when you go home from work and have time to spend with your family or do activities you like. Do not look for happiness in tangible things but look for happiness in things that you do and happen everyday. Take the effort to learn how to find happiness in your life and this will help you change your life.

A change in your life will only come if you want it and if you try and find it. It will not happen just like that and it will certainly not happen if you are passive and pessimistic. Search for a better life because you deserve to have a better life. Let the pessimism and negative thinking go away and start thinking positive. Become active and take control of your life instead of being controlled by it. Each new day is a great opportunity for you to make a new beginning.

We seem to be going through a period of nostalgia, and everyone seems to think yesterday was better than today. I don't think it was, and I would advise you not to wait ten years before admitting today was great. If you're hung up on nostalgia, pretend today is yesterday and just go out and have one hell of a time. ~Art Buchwald

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

How to Get Over a Break up

Falling in love with someone is the most wonderful feeling in the world. You feel as though you are floating on a bubble of love ecstasy and the world is truly a beautiful place in live in. Shot gun. Right to the heart. Crumbling to total dismay is how you feel when the love is over, when go through a break up or a one-sided love. No tears in the world can fill that heartache, no loving hug can cure the pain. 
Sometimes, the pain of lost love is so intense that it can shake our beliefs about romance and relationships. When these emotional bruises are not understood and have not healed properly, they become invisible baggage that drag with us into the next relationship.

STOP: Time to Ask for Help

"When it comes to love,
you need not fall but rather surrender,
surrender to the idea that you must love yourself
before you can love another.
You must absolutely trust yourself
before you can absolutely trust another
and most importantly you must accept your flaws
before you can accept the flaws of another.”
~ Philosophy: Falling in Love

1. Let it Go
 Learn to Let Go  If you were on the receiving end of a breakup, do not dwell on whether the person will come back or not, if they broke up with you at one point, chances are, something is wrong with the fit of your partnership, and you’ll be better appreciated elsewhere, with someone else. Even if you and the ex get back together, it is unlikely to last. Trust that everything in the Universe happens for a reason, and it benefits everyone involved in the long run, even if the benefits are not yet clear. Trust that this is the best possible thing to happen to you right now, and the reasons will become clear in the future.

2. Deal with the Hate
We all have the need to be understood and heard. Whether we’re on the receiving end or the initiating end of a breakup, we often carry with us the tension and any unexpressed emotions. We can release this extra energy by:

  • Talking about it with a friend.
  • Voicing our opinions honestly and openly with our ex-partner, which have been bottled up in the past.
  • Punching a pillow and crying freely for 10 minutes
  • Screaming out aloud and imagining unwanted energy being released with your voice
  • Writing in a journal
  • Exercise and body movement.
  • Meditating.
3.  Love Yourself and Forgive
Inner Peace You need to understand that you are still present in this life time and that time does not stand still. Keep an open mind and know that you are worth all the beautiful things in the world and this situations does not mean you will never love again. Forgive yourself for being so hard on yourself. Love yourself and know that you are capable of living a life of love and joy with out this other person. Don't look for blame or faults. It is not. So it is not meant to be. Open yourself to allow new wonderful people to get the opportunity to love you. Its important. And to do that forgive you ex-partner for the pain and loss. Remember you were happy once before and finding love and joy with someone is something to be grateful for.  Thank you - I forgive - I love myself. Is a mantra you will have to practice.

4. Give it Time
There is a time for everything in this life time. Even time to love and break-up to love again. Surround yourself with love and inspirational quotes and readings to keep you going because this too shall pass. 

“Every relationship will end someday, whether by break-up or by the death of one partner. Relationships have cycles. They are born, they live, and they die. Just like every part of life. It is merely a part of life.”
-Tom Stine

Share your thoughts on the matter. I would love to read your comments

Monday, October 25, 2010

How to Lose Weight having Sex

Running, sweating, cycling, sweating is all about keeping the body in motion. Burning away the calories, slimming down those thighs. These are the activities I should be doing act least three times a week to keep in shape but sometime I just don't feel like it. So... as part of my FUN exercise routine and keeping myself the man happy. Sex as a means of weigh loss is highly recommended way to go.
Did you know that sex could also make you thinner?

In a 30 minute session of lovemaking you can burn anywhere between 80 to 200 calories (depending on how rigorous the session is among other factors).If you make love 3 times a week, you can burn 7,500 calorie annually which is the equivalent of what you would achieve if you jog for 75 miles! Imagine that! Even better- imagine what a sex goddess you would be. I
cannot think of a more enjoyable way to shed the pounds.

  • Improves cardiovascular fitness due to your heavy breathing and increased heart rate during lovemaking.
  • Tones the muscles, including several muscle groups that rarely come into play during your regular routine. Reduces stress which is know to contribute to weight gain especially around the abdominals. Reducing stress can also help reduce the risk of heart diseases and other illnesses.
  • Helps you sleep better. Studies show that people who sleep better than others tend to lose weight faster.
  • An orgasm can burn between 60-100 calories
I will share with you Seven Great positions that will help you lose weight and keep you motivated with a new positions everyday. Just enjoy the ride.

7 Day Sex Position Weight Loss

Monday - Missionary Position
I suggest you start of slow since you have a great week ahead of you. Get to know your partner a little more and slowly get your body easy into a nice warm-up.

Tuesday - Back up Doggie
Time to take the lead and get that heart pumping and to get those legs burning. Maximum control - intense orgasm.

Wednesday - Up against it
Improve balance and works you inner core strength and makes you both happy. Great for anytime activity.

Thursday - Lap Limbo
Full body work out.

Friday - Classic Doggy Style
Sometime you have to cheat a little. Be present but let machines take the vibration machine at the gym. Less stress but you have all the pleasure.

Saturday - Gravity
Yoga is always good for the soul.

Sunday - Let's Spoon
T.L.C time.

Studies show sex, aside from being highly pleasurable, fun & exciting, also decreases stress levels, improves blood circulation, improves your cardiovascular health, mental health & overall well being. It also improves the condition of your skin, hair and nails. If you ask me, sexual fun is a win-win situation every single time. Just remember to use protection!

Friday, October 22, 2010

And don't forget to Smile

What's the point of taking a shower, putting some clothes on even more putting make up and heels if the point is not for you to smile afterwards. What's the point of all that effort if you are going to carry a grumpy face for the rest of the day. There is no point living in this world if you are not going to smile. If you have lips, teeth and a healthy personality you can smile, toothless and all.

A true smile has the power to light up anyone’s day, even your own. Everybody has something to smile about. Why not? Just smile and you will look younger. A smile is universally understood language. A smile can say thank you. A smile can say I'm sorry. A smile can say you're happy. A smile can say that you're in a good mood and you're not about to bite someone's head off. It's an extremely valuable tool. No matter where you go, or whatever the language people of that place speak, everyone in all countries and cultures understands and responds to a smile.

I can honestly say, South African's love to smile. Its a pleasure we give ourselves because we love the company of other people and the best way to say thank you is to Smile. Smile and be merry.

  • It is contagious
  • Does wonders for the soul
  • It does what words can not do

Do you remember the happiest time in your life? What was one of the most pleasurable moments you ever experienced? If you’re thinking of that special moment right now, you're smiling a real smile. Why? That memory of that pleasurable moment is bringing it on.

Now to perfect this technique, practice doing it. Walk into the break room or a group of people you associate with and just moments prior to your meeting, create a flash of that pleasurable moment in your memory. Watch as they read your body language and comment or query you. The memories can be replayed from this morning or 30 or more years ago. Learn to do that and you will learn the art of really smiling. Learn to master the skill and you will find other things that will bring it on.

This is really quite a wonderful thing when you think of it. You will start your presentation with a pleasurable thought. You will end up with a smile that will put your audience at ease. You will release endorphins that help emotional stress which will help with performance.
Smile, Breath and go Slowly

Many people who are self-conscious about their teeth sometimes don't smile, or do a closed-lipped smile that looks really forced. If you learn to like your teeth (or at least not think about them), your smile may start to look more natural.
Learn to smile with your eyes. Often, if you smile just with your mouth, people will think it is fake. A natural smile shows in your eyes as well as your mouth.

Practice in a mirror. This sounds silly, and often while you are doing it, you will begin to laugh, which will help you see what your natural smile looks and feels like.Say an "eee" sound. Your mouth naturally forms a smile while making this sound.

And laugh at yourself. Life is not that intense and boring that you constantly keep a stiff upper lip. You will happy and less stressed about the little things in life if you just, Smile, breath and go slowly. Start enjoying with positive facial expressions that will result in positive emotions. It can only benefit you. It will benefit your health, your wealth, and because of its viral effect, even those around you. And don't forget to smile.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Life Lesson

Story of Life

Author Unknown

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate, neighbor, coworker, long lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger), *but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way.*

And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart.

*Everything happens for a reason.*

Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck.

Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul.
Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become. *Even the bad experiences can be learned from.* In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones.

If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart.

If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.

*Make every day count.*

Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again.

Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and actually listen.

Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high.

Hold your head up because you have every right to.

Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you.

You can make of your life anything you wish.

Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets.

*Most importantly,* *if you LOVE someone tell him or her, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store.*

And learn a lesson in life each day that you live.

That's The Story Of Life.

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Love Food: Eat Slowly

One of the problems in our daily lives is that many of us rush through the day, with no time for anything … and when we have time to get a bite to eat, we gobble it down. Tisk...Tisk. You just missed out on a mouthful experience. A source of fuel and decadent delight a pleasure so instant you're busy swallowing you just missed the point.
Eat slowly. Chew like its your last meal and swallow like your soul depends on it. 

I know you're busy. I know your stressed but remember what I said about being motivated at work? Take a real Break!!

It’s about a lifestyle. It's about making each moment count. It is about having healthy eating habits. If you eat slowly you will remember what you ate and have enough for your stomach and won't be hungry or nibbling as often.  And whether you want to adopt that lifestyle or not, there are some reasons you should consider the simple act of eating slower:

1. You will lose Weight
If we eat fast, we can continue eating past the point where we’re full. If we eat slowly, we have time to realize we’re full, and stop on time.

2. You Will Enjoy the Experience of Food
It’s hard to enjoy your food if it goes by too quickly. In fact, I think it’s fine to eat sinful foods, if you eat a small amount slowly. Think about it: you want to eat sinful foods (desserts, fried foods, pizza, etc.) because they taste good. But if you eat them fast, what’s the point? If you eat them slowly, you can get the same amount of great taste, but with less going into your stomach. I think you are just happier by tasting great food and enjoying it fully, by eating slowly. Make your meals a gastronomic pleasure, not a thing you do rushed, between stressful events.

3. You Will Never Feel Guilty Again
... If you eat smart you will never feel guilt about what you ate ever again.

4. Less Stress
Eating slowly, and paying attention to our eating, can be a great form of mindfulness exercise. Be in the moment, rather than rushing through a meal thinking about what you need to do next. When you eat, you should eat. This kind of mindfulness will lead to a less stressful life, and happiness.

5. You will Want to Eat Healthy Food
Our hectic, fast-paced, stressful, chaotic lives — the Fast Life — leads to eating Fast Food, and eating it quickly. This is a lifestyle that is dehumanizing us, making us unhealthy, stressed out, and unhappy. We rush through our day, doing one mindless task after another, without taking the time to live life, to enjoy life, to relate to each other, to be human. Try not to eat at Fast Foods too often. Eat at a good restaurant, or better yet, cook your own food and enjoy it fully. Taste life itself.

So eat and be merry. I would like to share a can't-go- wrong Julia Child receipt that is truly tasty and delicious and can feed a big dinner group of eight with two chickens. Add that with roast potatoes and baked pumpkin with couscous- Bon Appetite!!

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Be Present

It is in the present moment, that we are truly alive! When we awaken to the silence of our minds, we are able to hear the wisdom of our souls. Our presence allows us to fully participate in our lives and enjoy all the peace, joy and wonderment that life has to offer.
"If you have one eye on yesterday, and one eye on tomorrow, you're going to be cockeyed today." -  Anonymous
"We are always getting ready to live but never living." -  Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Today is the first day of the rest of your life.' - Charles Dederich

Monday, October 18, 2010

How to Focus and Never Give Up

So, you feel like giving up? Well, then do it. You are what you put your mind too. If you are going to focus all your energy on your losses and your failures than don't be surprised that you are what you say. 

We all have our worst moments when we think that the best think to do, is to give up.  Let it go. Let it be. I suggest you cry, scream, let it out and shake it out and then breathe deeply because once the bad energy has been released and stupid has left the building, You are ready to be a champion again. A champions is someone who gets up, even when he can't. Learn to bounce back quickly and stay focused by getting back on track.
"A limit on what you will do, puts a limit on what you can do." - Anonymous
Just like Newtons first law. An object in motion tends to stay in motion. If you stop, everything stops. If you feel like giving up that’s normal, but get up and get going again to regain your winning momentum.
"People with goals succeed because they know where they are going... it's as simple as that." - Earl Nightingale
4 Ways to Keep Focus 
1. Create the right head space
You're brain has never been your friend when it came to happiness. Every thought whether it is negative or positive is controlled by your brain. It is designed to survive and never to suffer. It will continue to play games with you and always choose the easiest way to prevent any disappointment and sadness because You have trained it that way. To overcome all obstacles, whatever they may be, you need to control your thoughts. Conquer Yourself , Inner Peace , Learn to Let Go
To create the right frame of mine you need to;

  • Create a purpose filled life
  • Create a dynamic vision for your future

2. Stay Focused with Life Purpose
Your life purpose is the course or road you take. It’s the journey. It’s the doing actions along your journey that are filled with desire. Choosing the journey is absolutely critical if you want to live a purpose-filled life. If you don’t choose the journey, then the journey chooses you. Unfortunately for you, who thinks you are just here on earth for the ride and the sight seeing. You have a purpose. You were not born to be a cute baby but to be part of this life. You have influence, You do have choice and You do have power. We all do. It’s just a matter of awareness. Purpose is part of the answer, but only half the equation.
The other half comes from your vision. Your purpose must be fueled with a destination.

"If your life purpose is the course you take, then your vision is the magnet that pulls you along that course. Your vision sets the destination" - Steve Martile 
I could not have said it better.
3.  Stay Focused with Vision
“Give us clear vision that we may know where to stand and what to stand for- because unless we stand for something we shall fall for anything”- Peter Marshall 
"I think there is something, more important than believing: Action! The world is full of dreamers, there aren't enough who will move ahead and begin to take concrete steps to actualize their vision.”-  W. Clement Stone
4. Never, Never Give Up 
 Again I say bleed, fall, scream or cry but never never give up. It is not the fall that matters, it is whether you get up. 
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all."~ Dale Carnegie

Friday, October 15, 2010

Dare to be Great

Thank you to all my readers. Thank you for your support and your truthful witty comments. J'adore.  My love for this blog grows everyday because I get to inspire myself as well as the people of the world. Thank you. I will continue to inspire you and motivate you to live your life to the fullest.

All God does is watch us and kill us when we get boring. We must never, ever be boring.

Chuck Palahniuk (1962 - )Invisible Monsters, 1999

Now go out there and be exceptional. Dare to be Great!

Transcript -
"Shame on you. This could be the greatest night of our lives, but you’re going to let it be the worst. And I guarantee a week won’t go by in your life you won’t regret walking out, letting them get the best of you. Well, I’m not going home. We’ve come too far! And I’m going to stay right here and fight for this lost cause. A day may come when the courage of men fails… but it is not THIS day. The line must be drawn HERE. This far, no further! I’m not saying it’s going to be easy. You’re going to work harder than you ever worked before. But that’s fine, we’ll just get tougher with it! If a person grits his teeth and shows real determination, failure is not an option. That’s how winning is done! Believe me when I say we can break this army here, and win just one for the Gipper. But I say to you what every warrior has known since the beginning of time: you’ve got to get mad. I mean plum mad dog mean. If you would be free men, then you must fight to fulfill that promise! Let us cut out their living guts one inch at a time, and they will know what we can do! Let no man forget how menacing we are. We are lions! You’re like a big bear, man! This is YOUR time! Seize the day, never surrender, victory or death… that’s the Chicago Way! Who’s with me? Clap! Clap! Don’t let Tink die! Clap! Alright! Let’s fly! And gentlemen in England now abed shall know my name is the Lord when I tell our enemies that they may take our lives, but they’ll never take our Independence Day!"

Thursday, October 14, 2010

SEX: The Art of love making

Yes, love making is an important topic to discuss on Girlondaloose. If I want to continue the pursuit of happiness and living my life to the fullest, then love making time is just as important. I don't want it to be technical or " follow these steps to get the most out of love making" ... NO. This is the Art of Love Making not the Activity of Sex. Understand the difference?
Just like any satisfying quickie or the passionate rush for sex these moments need to be enjoyed. Do what ever you like as long it is with a consenting adult. I am here to talk about Love...Love Making to be exact.

But above all, you need to learn how to Love Yourself and Master your imperfections.

Are you a good lover? We all like to think we’re good lovers, but in reality, most of us know there’s room for improvement. After all, how we enjoy sex depends how connected you are with the person you're having a sexual relationship (one night stands included). At the end its that twinkle in your eye, that long gentle smile that lets you know the next day that you’ve shared something special together. If you want to achieve enjoyment and fulfilment from a healthy sexual relationship speak with your partner.

The art of lovemaking is about intimacy and this comes from openness and trust. When you feel a heart-to-heart connection with your partner, your lovemaking can be pure ecstacy. So be honest and let your partner know exactly how you feel but please don't crush egos. Love making is not a test that needs to be corrected, its connection. Its a connection that allows you to fully live your sexual desires. 

Foreplay is making love. Sometimes we can be so focussed on reaching orgasm that we forget to simply enjoy the pleasure of lovemaking.We need to taste each other, touch each other, see each other, smell each other, hear each other. These are the five senses that will draw you closer to each other more, leading to an explosive climax.  

Like any other art, you need to practice the art of lovemaking. Be creative. Be spontaneous. Grab you man when he comes out the shower or wait for him naked in the lounge. Trust me he won't say no. These moments are essential to becoming your own guru of love making. Try new things, positions or costumes make your own rules then break them. Anything goes. Discover what turns him on and what rocks your world. Love making is to be enjoyed. It is not a task or a routine but another way to say "I love you...this much!"

Love making is the art of receiving and giving pleasure. Don't waste your time. If you're going to open your legs make sure its to reach an orgasm  - M.C.
Alway remember to protect yourself and wear a condom.

Wednesday, October 13, 2010


One thing I know, is that happiness is a choice. I have been singing to that song since I was 19. I made a covenant with myself that I would choose to be happy no matter what. It has not been easy but it has been truly rewarding because sooner than later being happy becomes a habit. A habit I don't want to lose.

We all know what happiness is and we surely want to keep it around like our best friend. Well, it's time to change your out look on life.

“Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.” - Aristotle 

The search for happiness can be a lifelong search, especially if we look at happiness as something that will come once we achieve certain goals — a nice home, a perfect spouse, the ultimate promotion … and when we get these goals, instead of being happy, we often are looking forward to being happy when we meet our next goals.

Happiness shouldn’t be something that happens to us in the future, maybe someday, if things go well. Happiness should be here and now, who we are now, with the people we’re with now, doing the things we’re doing now. And if we’re not with people who make us happy, and doing things that make us happy … then we should take action to make that happen.

That’s the simple formula for happiness. Take action to do the things that make you happy, with the people who make you happy, and to be happy with the person you are now. (Disclaimer: this probably doesn’t apply, of course, to those who are clinically depressed or who have other similar medical conditions which I am not qualified to discuss.)

Don’t wait for happiness. Seize it.

“If you want to be happy, be.” - Leo Tolstoy
1 . You choose
How your view yourself and your world are conscious choices and habits. The lens you choose to view everything through determines how you will interpret what is happening. And from your interpretation you act. And all of this becomes your life.You can choose to find happiness in small, everyday things. You can choose to interpret what happens in a positive way. Or in a negative way.And your choices controls much of how much happiness your will find and create in your life. This is so true and can be master through practice.

Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.- Marcus Aurelius Antoninus
The world of those who are happy is different from the world of those who are not.- Ludwig Wittgenstein

2. Focus on the present, not yesterday or tomorrow

When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.You only have now. And now. And now. Yesterday is a memory and you cannot change it. Tomorrow is just a fantasy in your mind right now. So live more in the now, focus on the present moment and today. Think and worry less about yesterday and tomorrow. Otherwise you might miss a great deal of happiness that is available to you right now. You won't believe how many unnecessary things we worry about: Just let it go.
The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet. - James Oppenheim
3. Don’t forget to be grateful
One of the simplest and quickest ways to turn a negative and sour mood into a more positive one is to be grateful. Just try if for a minute and see how it changes how you feel. And it’s a win/win solution. You feel great because you are grateful about your world and the people you are grateful for feel great too because they feel appreciated. So don't forget about gratitude or you may forget about the happiness that is already in your life.
Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it. - Fyodor Dostoevsky
We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.- Frederick Keonig
4. Help someone else find happiness.
Great teacher of spirituality live by the practice and continue to teach the world about compassion; That in showing compassion, then you will know true happiness.
Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.- Buddha
If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap. 
If you want happiness for a day — go fishing.
If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune. 
If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.
Chinese Proverb
5. Lose you less valuable desires.
Yes, you want to conquer the world and do a million things and you want more and more and more. You will only have what you want when you release the clutter of your mind and focus on what you really need. If you wan less, you won't expect so much and if you expect less you have peace of mind that you have enough and you are happy.

If thou wilt make a man happy, add not unto his riches but take away from his desires. - Epicurus
6. Do what you like to do
I have been preaching this since I began my blog. It’s still easy to trap yourself into doing what you don’t want to for many, many hours. And seldom do what you really love to do. You may not be able to choose to do what you want to do right now. Or for many hours each day or week. But you almost always have a choice to do more of what you really want to do. There is always time. Or time you can free up. You always have a choice.

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful - Albert Schweitzer

7.  At least do something
Nothing can be done with out action. One of the best ways to not find happiness is just to hold yourself back and do nothing. Seldom show up. Paralyze yourself through over analysis. It’s not always easy to take action, it can be scary and hard and difficult. But if you don’t take action you’ll be missing out on a lot. Including many moments, people and experiences that can bring you a lot of happiness and joys to your life.
Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action. - Benjamin Disraeli

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

What do you want to do with your life?

I was asked a very puzzling question. It was not a question I had not heard before or a question I had not answered. I truly think the question had an  impact on me because I was  sleeping and the question was been asked.  So my brain did not have the time to be on a ego trip and say what it thought would be appropriate or what I thought I wanted. It was my inner conscious listening. Raw, bare and open. "What do want to do with your life?" 

Wow, what a shocker. Who asks questions like that when you are semi- conscious? Well my dear love did. It left my brain frazzled and confuses. I had a hundred thoughts go through my head and I was not even sure which was what. There are lots of things I "want" to do in my life. But that was not the answer to the question. So I turned the question back to him. 

"What do you want to do with your life?" I have three things he said. 
Three things! is this man for real. How could I ever possibly come up with just three things. So I croaked back to him in my sleepy voice, "Well babe, that is very mature of you to only have three things you want to with your life. So what are they?
"Well first..." he said." I would like to spend the rest of my life with you. To be a successful architect and continue to do photography."
My man has his life to a simple 3 answer step. No confusion, no dilution, no side step motto. I found him to be wise and untarnished by this over superficial life, 2.0 generation. He lives to his own standards of life and he definitely had his own perspective about wants and needs.
I signed desperately. 

"I admire that. I am a restless soul. I want many things. I will need time to think on that answer."
I am finding it difficult to separate the want and the true need. I have a list but not even sure if the list is for me. I want everything to feel accomplished in this life time. Now, I am wondering - IS IT WORTH IT?

So for today, my question is What do you want to do with your life?

- Mabe its not even the question we should be asking...

Monday, October 11, 2010

6 Ways to Stay Motivated at Work

I read somewhere that "Staying motivated at work is easier than you think when you know what to do." Yeah, right. Getting out of bed just to go to work is hard enough. Sometimes you love your job and you can not wait to get back to work just to finish it off. And most of the times your dreaming of a holiday where you can forget about work. But until that one day I get paid to go holiday; Here are some tips to keep you motivated.

1. Decide What You Must Achieve Today.
It is easy to get caught up with non-urgent matters that you can either ignore completely or do at a later date. All that clutter leaves you confused about what to do so you end up procrastinating.You need to ask yourself:What is of the utmost importance that I must complete today?Define that specific goal and focus solely on that until you have achieved it. Clarity is power. It allows you to operate in a peak state of concentration and will help to ensure you are at your best. You will be amazed at how much you will get done and how successful you will feel when you FOCUS.

2. Surround Yourself with Love
Surround yourself with personal items that remind you of positive things in your life. Pictures of family, friends, or pets will do the trick. When you're feeling down or stressed, take a glance at your pictures.
Get a wall or desk calendar that you find amusing. Word-a-days, comic strips, and sudoku calendars are just some of the ones you may be interested in.

3. Take a Lunch Break
When you take a lunch break, take a lunch break. What that means is, get out of the office, go outside, get some fresh air, enjoy your food, and rest. You are going to have to go back to work sooner than later, so why don’t you enjoy yourself while taking a breather.

4. Keep Career in Perspective
It is always wise to remind yourself the reason why you decided your career path. This will ignite all the passion and aspirations that you had for your job thus motivating you to continue to do your best. We forget about these goals so its best you write them on a piece of paper and leave it in your drawer for those self reflective emergencies.

5. Thinking Positive in the Workplace
Negativity is a powerful force, which can easily demotivate and depress you to the point where you only  work for the salary with no other reasons. There is nothing worse than that. Avoid negative feelings and people at work. These distractions are there to bring you down and take you nowhere in your life. Try to hang out with the happy people in you office. They are highly contagious and fun people to share ideas.  But please, don't leech off all the good vibes from one person. Find your own joy and share it with others. You should focus on all positives that can be find, however small it may be.

6. Reward Yourself
You are not getting a bonus soon so get a massage after work, do your nails, go to gym or get your friends together to grab a cold beer. What ever makes you feel better to de-stress the load. A reward is needed after a hectic day.